I started following the Jillian Michaels food plan about 2 months ago. I will tell you that honestly this is the first time I have followed a meal plan and NOT been bored!! I get to choose what I like from her recipes, although for the first 6 weeks I followed her meal plan strictly. Now I have learned portion and meals so can modify and substitute proteins and veggies! One of the recipes I really love is Chickpea burgers! In the JM recipe she uses 19 oz of chickpeas and a tahini sauce. I use 15 ounces of chickpeas and I make a homemade Tzatiki , aka cucumber yogurt sauce. I prefer the tanginess and crunch of the Tzatiki with the smoothness of the chickpea for some texture and taste variety. I also like to put sliced tomatoes on the burger. VERY yummy!
Chickpea Burgers with Cucumber Yogurt sauce
15 ounce(s) beans, garbanzo (chickpeas)
2 scallion(s) (green onions)
2 tablespoon flour, white whole wheat
1 tablespoon oregano, fresh, chopped
1/2 teaspoon cumin, ground
1/4 teaspoon salt
2 tablespoon oil, olive, extra-virgin
2 pita, 100% whole-wheat
1/2 cup(s) yogurt, low-fat plain, drained
1/2 cucumber, chopped and seeded
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon low fat sour cream
1/4 teaspoon salt
To prepare burgers: Place chickpeas, scallions, egg, flour, oregano, cumin and 1/4 teaspoon salt in a food processor. Pulse, stopping once or twice to scrape down the sides, until a coarse mixture forms that holds together when pressed. (The mixture will be moist.) I tend to process until it is smooth, but coarse is okay as well. Form into 4 patties.Heat oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add patties and cook until golden and beginning to crisp, 4 to 5 minutes. Carefully flip and cook until golden brown, 2 to 4 minutes more.To prepare sauce: Meanwhile, combine yogurt, chopped cucumber, lemon juice, sour cream and 1/4 teaspoon salt in a medium bowl. Divide the patties among the pitas and serve with the sauce. Sliced tomatoes are quite delicious on this sandwich also.To make ahead: Cover and refrigerate the uncooked burger mixture and sauce for up to 2 days.
Place chickpeas, scallion, cumin, four, egg, oregano and salt into the processor:
I then divide the mixture into 4 sections for making the patties.
I then scoop each section and make a patty, that is placed into a hot pan with a little EVOO.
Cook them for 4-5 minutes on one side, then flip and cook for 4 more minutes until brown and crispy.
For the sauce I take the yogurt and drain it. I think the texture of the tzatiki is better when the yogurt is thicker. There are many different methods people use to drain the yogurt. Mine is pretty low tech. I put two paper towels in a plastic container and place a rubber band around the top of the paper towels to hold them in place. That way the yogurt can drain into the bottom of the container. I use plain nonfat yogurt. It is best to let it drain for at least 30 minutes to an hour.
While the yogurt is draining I take a cucumber, peel it and slice it in half and remove the seeds. I rough chop it and place it into a food processor where I blend it up. This creates a lot of cucumber “water”. You can drain it the same way you drained the yogurt or just squeeze it out.
I mix the lemon juice, salt, sour cream, processed cucumber and drained yogurt together in a bowl
Quite often I make the sauce first and pop it into the fridge so the flavors can “shake hands” as my mother would say. Then I make the burgers. It is also a nice contrast to have the cool sauce on a hot burger.
Finally I put the burger into a pita:
Top with a tablespoon of sauce:
And finally top with some sliced tomatoes. I picked this yellow tomato from the garden. Yellow tomatoes are lower in acid, but taste just as yummy as a red tomato!
This burger in a pita with sauce is a very reasonable 375 calories! It is very filling and wonderful lunch or dinner meal!
So, I recently wrote about how Facebook changed my memories of high school and how my 30th reunion was coming up soon. I decided a while ago I was going to go, and Karol (the woman formerly known as Bluebell) said she would go with me. I was excited when the reunion was first announced. I shared how people on Facebook had reconnected with me in such a positive affirming way, and that really reassured me that it would be okay.
However, I must admit that as the time for going got closer and closer, I became quite nervous. I started having more anxiety about my weight, and my life choices, and the fact that many people had stayed in Connecticut and seemed to still be friends, while I had joined the Navy and never really looked back. My parents stayed in Fairfield for a few years after I graduated because my younger brother was still in high school. However, they also moved from Fairfield, and there was no reason for me to return. Would I fit in?
The weekend arrived, and I was nervous, but excited. So we packed, got into the car, and headed north. The drive was pretty uneventful until we hit NYC. After many bad words were spoken on the drive in from NYC, we arrived at the hotel, changed and went to dinner at Luigi’s Pizza! Karol had been told by a coworker (who was raised in Connecticut) that she had to try pizza while in CT because it was like “nothing she had ever tasted”. She agreed!! The pizza was amazing!!
We headed out to the beach where some friends had gathered, and I nervously headed to the sand to look for them. I found them pretty quickly, and was greeted with love and friendship! It was so nice to get hugs and smiles, and to catch up with old friends! But that was just the beginning!
On Saturday we had lunch with a wonderful woman who was very close to my family. She and my younger brother had dated for several years, and she really was considered part of the family! We met for lunch at an all organic restaurant in Norwalk called Savor Healthy Pizza. The food was WONDERFUL. Pizza, wraps, salad. My friend P had a chicken wrap which looked so yummy, and Karol and I had the chicken ceasar salad!
It is a good thing the restaurant wasn’t crowded because we spent over two hours together. Chatting, laughing, catching up. It was so wonderful to spend time with this truly amazing, beautiful, intelligent woman. I didn’t know her very well because she and my brother are 4 years younger than me, and they didn’t start dating until I had already joined the Navy and left home. After my brother Brian died she and I reconnected and have stayed in touch ever since. To come together as adults and chat about Brian, and our families, and her son, and husband, and her life now was such a special treat for me! It was wonderful to share memories of Brian with someone who knew him so well also! And beyond that, to reconnect as adults was amazing! She is a very talented writer, and was actually was the one who encouraged me to start writing and blogging. For that and so much more I will be forever grateful to you P!!
After we left Norwalk, we headed back to the hotel to change and go to the reunion of Roger Ludlowe class of 1983!!
As we parked, my heart started to pound a little. We walked up to the Seagrape (the bar where the reunion was happening), I took a few deep breaths, screwed up my courage and headed on in. At the door I saw one of the three classmates who had organized the reunion, and found my name tag with my high school picture. I looked around the room, and saw that it was full! I was amazed how many people had come out to this event! I recognized so many people!
Immediately I saw a woman I had been very good friends with all through middle school and most of high school! We hugged and chatted for a bit, and Karol and I started to make our way around the room. While doing so the most amazing thing happened!
Over and over people greeted me, and hugged me and we chatted about where we were living and what we were doing! I was so surprised by the warmth with which I was greeted. A recurring theme was that most of the people who I talked with also had hazy memories of high school, just like I did! I thought I was alone, but we were all feeling the same way. We talked about the “girls” and “boys”. How the “girls” all looked the same, but not all the “boys”. To be honest, most people looked as though time had stood still.
Again and again people talked about how they felt in high school. Muddling through, feeling like they didn’t fit in. My perception of them in school was so vastly different from their perception of themselves. Everyone I spoke with had the same thoughts about adolescence! As the night wore on, the years melted away, and so did the awkwardness. These people who were walking around hugging and chatting, and enjoying each other were an important part of each others lives. Friendships that had faded away were renewed and new friendships formed.
Throughout the night I noticed a few interesting things. Most of the people in the room had outgrown the adolescent ideas of cliques, and separatism. Life has a way of doing that. People who I wasn’t really friends with in high school would say hello and chat for a bit. I noticed people who were in different “groups” in school mingling and that made me feel good that somehow time had removed the walls and as we all neared 50, we had let go of some of our old paradigms. However, upon further inspection I found that wasn’t completely the case. There was a particular group who I walked past at least 4 times. I noticed they didn’t really socialize with anyone but themselves, and although they all saw me each time I passed, they didn’t speak to me. This group was part of the group in school who wasn’t very nice to me, and although at the beginning of the night it bothered me, as the night wore on, it didn’t matter at all. I realized that while 95% of us had grown and changed and become better people, some were just stuck in their worlds and opinions of themselves. Some people really don’t change. That seems sad to me.
I spoke about this with a classmate as we stood outside the bar and the party was winding down. She pointed out that maybe people like that just haven’t had their world view change enough. Maybe they had not experienced loss, or struggle, or other events that would cause them to shift their focus. What a gracious way to see the situation! I decided to adopt her view on things, and see the positive aspect of the situation.
So many of us had grown through loss and life experiences. We had been unemployed, lost siblings, children, parents, spouses, and life had given us ups and downs. They left their mark on us that were invisible to the eye, but visible in the way people were so generous and kind to each other. Life had given us both positive and negative experiences, and caused bruises. To borrow a thought from a popular Train song, these bruises and experiences had made us all more equal.
One of the most touching moments of the evening happened about 30 minutes after we arrived. I was making my way around the room, hugging and talking with one old friend after another when another old friend approached me bringing someone else with her. She said she was so glad to see me and that the man she brought with her had something to tell me. I looked over and saw a familiar face. He proceeded to say that he was so sorry he was “such an asshole” to me in school. He didn’t know why he was mean, but that he really felt badly about it, and wanted to apologize. His apology brought tears to my eyes and joy to my heart! It was proof to me that in school we were all just trying so hard to fit in with our peer groups, and maybe we did things we knew weren’t right but had to do them to “fit in”. I have him a big hug and told him all was forgiven. His apology was a testament to me about the man he had become, and how could I NOT forgive him?
Not many of us brought our significant others, and I was concerned Karol would be bored. At one point I was chatting with a friend, and looked over, and she was deep in conversation with a classmate who works at Sikorsky. Her husband works there too. Maybe Karol is planning a move to Connecticut? The youngest child graduates in 4 years, so after that, anything is fair game. She actually chatted with quite a few people, and it was nice to see her fitting in so well!!
All in all, it was a wonderful evening. Not only were there people from our class, but also from the class a year ahead of us and a year behind us. One of the girls I was in band with who is a year older than us was there and it was so awesome to spend time with her. We were such good friends in school. We spent an hour every day, 5 days a week together, hours upon hours at marching band practice, band trips, concerts, etc etc. She was so much fun then, and still fun now!!
I could write more and more, but I think this post is long enough. This was the first reunion I have ever attended. I did not go previously because fear kept me away. I went this time because I no longer had as much fear. I am so much more self aware, and have the maturity and self confidence to be proud of who I am and what I have accomplished. Social media had changed the landscape of my high school memories and friendships. People I had renewed friendships with online really WERE that nice in person as well!! I was also quite surprised to hear people compliment me on my writing, and tell me they enjoyed reading it. I had no idea people even knew I wrote.
So the evening was wonderful for me!! I had a great time, and it was made even better because of Dee and Chris and Mike, and Brian and Peter, and Julie and Diana and Arlene, and Sharon and Jackie and Jacqueline and Kim and Kim and Kris, and Laura, and Claudia and Patti, and Erika and Sue, Mary Anne, and Sharon, Beth and Mark, Lynn and Lisa. If I have forgotten a name, please forgive me, it was an amazing night, with so many people to talk to. When I was looking at pictures on Facebook I saw so many people I didn’t even get a chance to chat with, but I will in 5 years!!
I have not had a physical in two years. I am 47 and am supposed to have a mammogram every year now. I have not had a mammogram in two years. The last time I visited the doctor she was concerned about my borderline diabetic blood sugar levels. I have not had my blood sugar levels checked in two years. She was also concerned about my cholesterol. Also not checked in two years. I have heart disease that runs in my family, however, even that has not moved me to go to the doctor.
I have health insurance. It is affordable health insurance (TRICARE) and my co-pays are obscenely low. (Something I feel a bit guilty about, but that is a post for another day). I am in the medical field, and know the risks of all of these health concerns, yet I still have not gone.
So with my health on a borderline level, and the fact that I am over 45 and have different health needs, why haven’t I been to the doctor in two years? Easy…. it is because I am fat. Overweight. Actually, I am obese. I am 90 pounds over what I am “supposed” to be.
Now I know how people are supposed to feel. I know we are not supposed to judge and we are supposed to be loving and kind to all people. I am a kind person, I am generous, I am compassionate. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect, if you do me wrong, I can be amazingly cold, but 98% of the time, that is not the case.
Instead of feeling good about the positive aspects of my personality, all I focus on is my weight. I refuse to look in mirrors, and won’t let anyone take pictures of me. My clothes are all baggy, and I am so embarrassed that I have to shop in the “woman’s” section.
I haven’t been to the doctor in two years because I am ashamed. Ashamed of my weight. Ashamed that I have not been able to lose weight. To go to the doctor’s office is excruciatingly painful. I have to get on a scale….(I close my eyes and tell the nurse not to tell me). I don’t own a scale. I don’t want to know. When I see the doctor she will tell me I need to lose weight. That my blood pressure is getting high. (It was probably fine until I started driving to the doctor’s office). She will tell me I am borderline diabetic and that she will want to check my blood sugar again in two months. Of course I won’t show up for that appointment. I will reschedule a few times, then just call and cancel.
I have even tried to look in the mirror and find parts of my body I do like. I have done that. I like my eyes, my lips, my hair, and my calves. So I am happy from my chin up, and my knees down. That leaves A LOT that I don’t like.
To be honest, I have tried, over and over, but I just can’t feel good about my body and my size. I am so happy for the women that have been able to feel big and “beautiful”, but for me, it just doesn’t work. I look in the mirror and want to cry. It doesn’t help that aging requires a lot of emotional stamina and bravery. Lines show up that didn’t used to be there, my metabolism (which has always been slow anyway) has gone on permanent hiatus. My hair has become more gray, and my joints have begun aching.
I truly believe that despite the recent trend to “love yourself” no mater what, I have spoken with other women who feel the same way I do. I have tried many times and ways to lose weight. I have changed from “white” foods to “brown” foods, I have cut switched to sugar free baking. I have made Cheesecake, choc chip cookies, chocolate death pudding cake, and many other things trying to reduce my sugar. I even joined Weight Watchers and after 6 months, I had ended up gaining 3 pounds…….
So in a last ditch effort I have joined Jillian Michaels to try to make changes for my health. I have had some success, but I am still fat, I am less fat, but still fat. Still ashamed, still afraid of catching a glimpse of myself in the mirror when I shower.
I don’t know if this fat shaming in our society will ever end. I know there is some that is overt and some that is less so, but for me, I am the best at shaming myself. I don’t need their help. So for everyone who sees me and thinks not so nice things, believe me when I tell you that I have said and thought much worse about myself. I don’t need anyone else to help me feel bad, and less than.