My kids think I am always angry with them……what??????

So yesterday was a pretty exciting day for me.  Some of my classmates in my women’s studies classes are also in a class about Feminism and the Media. In this class, they created Zines, which are like handcrafted, smaller version of a magazine. According to Wikipedia a Zine is a: small circulation self-published work of original or appropriated texts and images usually reproduced via photocopier.  I was really having a tough day, (which shall be saved for another conversation) and I wanted to drown my sorrows in pizza.  So I asked my family if they would go to eat pizza with me, but we had to stop at Old Dominion University first to go to the”Zine Launch Party”. 

Of course Joe Cool (the newly minted 18 year old) was reluctant and didn’t really want to go to the Zine Launch Party, but the lure of pizza was too great, and he said yes.  The Genius (who in really into alternative music, Tumblr, and all things creative) wanted to see the Zines and eat pizza, so he said yes.  Karol just wanted to hang out with me, so she said yes before anyone else answered me back. I texted my request to them (yes I text my kids during school hours), and so I had their responses back in time to make plans. 

That is all a backdrop to the reason we were all in the car together traveling from home to ODU where an interesting conversation took place.

Somehow we started talking about how I texted them my request, and waited for an answer back from them.  Which led to a discussion about me texting them requests for things.  Both of my kids said that they felt like my texts were “angry texts” and that I was always pissed off when I texted them.  Or that my texts were snarky.  This really puzzled me, so of course I asked them why they thought that.

Their answer:……

They said I sound angry when I text because I use punctuation in my texts………?????????????

This really confused me…..

Because what annoys me about texting THEM is:

textiquette #1

Okay, first of all,  I would NEVER punch my kids…..(shhhhhhhhh)

But beyond that, they think I am angry because I use punctuation….????

Actually they said they said because I use periods.  And complete sentences…..

So apparently commas, questions marks and exclamation points are okay, but periods are not…….damn those periods!!!

I was like, “hmm, well, I am NOT mad, but I can understand that texting is difficult to always know the texter’s emotions”

So I suppose I need to use more emojis and smiley faces with them?


I will say I do NOT use text slang.  Never have, never will.  I always spell everything out and use proper words and grammar.  So I guess my questions to you are:

Do you use text slang?  Do you use proper words and punctuation?  and the biggest one:

Do periods at the end of sentences in texting make you think the texter is angry????? Do you think I am angry texting?

Please help me understand their logic that I don’t understand…… you????

This is the plight of the mama in this house…..


The wisdom of my kids?????

I live in a household with three male adolescents.  Three teenaged boys.

I can’t speak to anyone else’s experience with adolescent male children, all I can tell you is that my male adolescent children like to:

Talk. About.  Their.  Junk.

And by junk I mean they like to talk about their penis’, testicles, scrotums, etc.  They joke about the size of their junk, the usage of their junk, and the importance of their junk.  This is an almost daily occurrence.  Sigh…….

I suppose in one way of looking at it, that is a good thing.  It means Karol and I have a household where the boys feel free to express themselves and are comfortable talking about sexuality and condoms, and their bodies.  It means we have open communication and we are raising boys who are able to talk to us about anything.

On the other hand, it can lead to conversations like this:

Me: (at the dinner table speaking to the oldest boy)  “Dude, whenever you stand up your pants are sagging.  Pull your pants up”
Oldest Boy: “I pulled them up before I sat down.  You know, what goes up must come down.”
Middle Boy: (from the other room):  “Just like a boner.”

Youngest Boy starts laughing hysterically.

Annnddd there you have it folks.
Welcome to my world.


Let’s Help Educate Some Students in Africa!

While I have been pursuing my degree at Old Dominion University I have had the great pleasure of meeting some wonderful people.  One of those people is Skylar.  She is incredibly talented and intelligent and she is currently working on a project to raise money to purchase some books and help the library.  Here are Skylar’s words about her project:

I constructed an acronym out of my mother’s name to symbolize my drive for this project, which is to provide Awareness, Nurture, Networking, Encouragement, Teamwork, Teaching, and Equality (Annette). This project is inspired by her, my research on the educational experience of South African girls, and my experience studying abroad. In May 2014, I participated in an independent study in Cape Town, South Africa for two and a half weeks documenting social development and human rights issues. While there, I focused on the education system in South Africa, specifically in primary and secondary schools. I spent some time in a school located in the Guguletu Township, Fezeka Secondary School. As a result, I discovered that Fezeka lacked the resources to provide their students with the certain amenities such as a fully stocked library or a computer lab. These resources are essential to the success of the students  in regards to preparing them for achieving a higher level of education. The primary goal of my service-learning project is to complete the library in Fezeka by raising money for their library and other supplies.

Please help Skylar exceed her goal by donating here:

These are some pictures from Skylar’s Go Fund Me Page from her trip to Africa.




Please help her exceed her goal!!