People grieve for all sorts of reasons; losing a job, the ending of a relationship, the death of a pet, and of course, the loss of someone that they care about. Anyone that has ever lost someone that they care for knows that it is a deeply painful process. If your close friend or relative recently lost someone that they care for you may be wondering how best to support them through this difficult time. No one likes to see people that they care about in emotional pain, so you may want to see if some of these tips can help:
Understand the Grieving Process
Understanding the grieving process can help you better support your loved one as they come to terms with their loss. People go through many emotions when they are grieving, and it can be uncomfortable to witness, but understanding how the grieving process works will help you to prepare and help your loved one in the best way possible.
Suppose your friend or relative seems to be particularly struggling with their feelings. In that case, they may find it helpful to see a counsellor so that they can get some professional support through this challenging period in their lives.
Relieve Some of the Pressure
When a loved one dies, there is not only the feeling of loss to come to terms with but also the practical arrangements that need to be made. Getting affairs and paperwork in order and making arrangements for the funeral can be a source of significant stress which is the last thing needed at this deeply upsetting time. Offering your assistance with the practical arrangements can be a welcome relief for your loved one and will help to alleviate some of the pressure that they are under. Tasks such as looking online at headstones by Memorials.com to help them decide on the best option could help, and assisting with organizing the wake could also be a big help.
Offer a Listening Ear
When someone suffers a loss, the best thing that you can often do is to be there for them. Trying to ‘fix’ the situation to make them feel better, or attempting to play down their feelings can cause them added pain, and could damage your relationship. Simply being present and providing companionship and a listening ear may sound like something small, but it can make all the difference to your loved one. Just knowing that you are there and ready to listen can provide great comfort at this difficult time.
Talking can be extremely beneficial for people coming to terms with a loss. Discussing feelings and remembering the good times can help your loved one to process their grief and keep their special memories alive. Remember, you mustn’t try to pressurize your loved one by forcing them to think or act in a certain way. You just need to be around to support them while giving them space to process their feelings and discuss them at their own pace.