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Can Trump change once he is the President?

Every day I listen to National Public Radio. Sometimes I tune in to Fox News channel on my XM radio. Sometimes I listen to CNN on my radio. I do my best to get news from different perspectives. I am in my car a lot driving and so I have time to sit and listen to the news.

First things first. I was very worried when Trump won. Although I listened to a very close friend who told me not to worry because he was smart enough to “surround himself with smart people even though he is an idiot”, and worried just a little less. Because I value her opinion, and she is older and usually wiser than me I have tried to pay attention to the confirmation hearings so far. So what I have found is that I am even more confused than I was before.

The one thing I can be sure of (based upon actions so far)  is the President-elect Trump will always stay true to the from of what we have always seen and heard from him. From his days of bashing Rosie O’Donnell, to saying he doesn’t want  a “Mexican judge” on his lawsuit, to the man I always believed to be an egomaniac, and quite frankly not very nice. I used to watch “The Apprentice”, and I was always amused by his way of talking to people and thought his ego was a little too big even then. (and when I say I watched it, I mean I watched it back in the beginning, in 2004 when the not so nice Omarosa was on and subsequently fired). Interestingly,  apparently Omarosa has a job in the White House after Trump takes office.

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I just feel that he is who he is. The mean tweets, the outbursts, the inability to listen well, the ego. I am not sure he will be able to take his personality down a notch or two after he takes office. I mean he is no spring chicken…. he is 70 years old………I find it unlikely that a person of that age will change who he is at his core and be able to behave differently than what we have witnessed over the many years he has been in the spotlight….

So I am worried. I just don’t believe he will act one way on January 19 and then a different way on January 21st. The situation with Russia worries me, his way of speaking to people worries me especially when it comes to foreign relations. And I am concerned about the repeal of the ACA without something better to replace it with. I am always hopeful that things will work out okay, but to be honest, I am having a hard time being hopeful.  So many people in this country are scared and don’t know how to feel about what may come.

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So for now, I will just wait and see before I make any judgements and I pray that I am absolutely wrong and once he becomes our 45th President he will change and things will not get worse in this country. I never bought into the “make America Great AGAIN” slogan because I think there is so much about America that is already great and has always been great. I have traveled to other countries, and while ours has its faults, it is definitely one of the best places to live in this world!

Crossing my fingers and ever hopeful that Trump can change his ways when he becomes President!

 

Equality is NOT the same thing as equity

I am a 50 (almost 51) year old woman and I am passionate about a lot of things, my family, the beach, good food and therefore working out, and equity. Notice I didn’t say equality.

There is a common misconception that equity and equality mean the same thing — and that they can be used interchangeably, especially when talking about how people live. Yes, when talking about race. And gender, and class, but today I want to focus on race. But the truth is they do not — and cannot. Yes, the two words are similar, but the difference between them is crucial. So please, don’t talk about equality when you really mean equity.

I mean I can see how there is confusion about the words. They sound alike, they even mean similar things, but they are NOT the same.

Similarities:

1) Both words point towards treating people the same, with dignity and as people who have a voice, power and choice.

2)  Both terms point towards a desire for every person to reach their full potential, not only to survive, but to thrive.

3) Both terms seek to reach a place where race, age, socioeconomic status, gender, mobility, sexual orientation, religion, or other differences do not determine access to education, resources, or decide one’s level of inclusion or well-being.

However, the difference comes from the fact that we do not have a level playing field and everyone doesn’t start at the same place.

Equality says that everyone has the same access to education and food and resources and housing and they all start at the same place as every one else and that just isn’t true. This is where equity comes in.

Equity realizes that the systems of education, politics, health care, economics and power have been created in such a way that discrimination lives within them. In order to achieve equity, this systemic discrimination must be eradicated from the systems themselves.

Equality says that the rules of the game are the same for everyone.

Equity says that even if the rules of the game are the same for everyone, the game is “rigged” to provide some with more privilege at the expense of others.

Equality says that everyone has the right to vote.

Equity says that everyone should have the same access to vote. (distance to vote, be able to vote in their language of choice, hours of availability of the voting stations, etc)

Equality says we can eradicate racism by “doing no harm” based on race.

Equity says we can only eradicate racism by doing no harm AS WELL AS actively working for justice by BOTH refusing to reproduce harms AND actively working to dismantle the causes of racial inequality.

So when I hear people say (particularly on social media) that the world is equal and that everyone has the same opportunities they may be correct in using that word, but equality isn’t enough. We need EQUITY.

and here is a nice picture to explain it easily:

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In the United States we do NOT have equity. Black males are incarcerated more than white males. We have had TWO more instances of black men being shot this week. Even if we aren’t sure about the man in Charlotte whether there was a weapon or not, in the case of Terence Crutcher even the Police Chief of Tulsa is saying there was no weapon. This man had his hands in the air.

Equity would mean that if it is okay to shoot a terrorist suspect in the arm and leg to “take him down” then the same would hold for an unarmed black man be shot in the leg to “take him down” if the police think he is not complying and needs to be stopped.

Equity would mean that if terrorists can be taken alive to face a trial and jury then so can a black person.

We don’t need equality. We NEED equity!

 

 

Women should be in control of their own bodies!

I have always been an advocate of reproductive rights for women. Every woman should have the right to decide for herself when and if she wants to have children. This decision is a very personal one, and each woman should have the right to make it for herself. Without interference from parents, siblings, spouses, and especially from the government. There are two points I would like to make. The first is that I am deeply offended by the anti abortion people using the phrase “right to life” as their catch phrase. As if being pro-abortion rights makes you somehow “against” life. That the only group that values life is the people who are against a LEGAL medical procedure. That is the bottom line for me. An abortion is a medical procedure. A LEGAL medical procedure. If people looked at it that way would it remove some of the volatility? Could we look at a heart transplant, or an appendectomy, or tonsillectomy through the same lens? NO, you can’t remove that organ because it was given to you at birth and since you are a GOD created being, it is God’s appendix, so you MUST keep it, even if it kills you….  Women should be in control of their own bodies!

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Think about it. The argument against abortion usually stems from a religious basis. That it is against God’s law to “take” a life. Well, what if that “life” threatens the mother’s life because of where the cells chose to implant themselves, or what if the “life” was created from a violent act of rape or incest? At what point does the woman within whom these cells are growing get to have agency over her own body? Why does her agency stop due to religion?

Religion removes a woman’s agency over her own body in more ways than just the abortion argument. What does the religious right say about contraception? Or about her right NOT to have children? In many cases a woman’s ONLY value is about bringing babies into the world and being her husband’s “helpmate”. And before anyone argues that I may not understand, I wish to let you know that I was married to a man for 9 years and we belonged to the fundamental Church of Christ church. While I was a member of that church I was not allowed to speak during services, not allowed to teach men (because MEN are the head), not allowed to hold a leadership position in the church, and was taught to be quiet, meek and subservient to my husband. Those of you who know me in real life might understand how these directives affected me. For those of you who have never met me, you need to know that I am a strong, opinionated, passionate, intelligent woman. Having to squash all of that in order to “serve God and my husband” was a heavy chain around my heart and soul. The yoke of religion can be a burden women have to bear, not the spiritual uplifting I think a truly loving, kind and just God would want for us.

However, getting back to reproductive rights, I am ALL for them. There was a time in my life when I was 18 and dating a very sweet young man named Ron. We were both in Hospital Corps School, and were just about to embark on our Navy career. I got pregnant. I was completely distraught. I knew if I continued with the pregnancy I would not be able to continue my Navy schooling, and it would change my career and educational aspirations. I was only 18. I was not ready to be a parent. Ron wasn’t ready to be a parent. We decided to terminate the pregnancy. My mother agreed and I flew home to Connecticut from Chicago, and she took me to a clinic to have a LEGAL abortion. This was in 1984.  As we neared the clinic I noticed there was a chain link fence around the entire building. The fence was there to keep protesters away from the front door of the building. As I neared the fence there was a throng of people standing by the gate holding signs and shouting at me. They told me I was evil, and sinful, and that what I was doing was murder and I was going to hell. My mother grabbed hold of my arm tightly and just steered me through those people. To be honest I was afraid of them. They seemed so angry and so incredibly judgmental.

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I think about that day sometimes, even now. Less now than I did when I was younger. I think about the fact that I could have a 31-year-old child. I think about the fact that I would probably not have married my ex-husband if I had chosen to have that child. Then I wouldn’t have my two amazing beautiful boys my ex and I created together. My life would have been so different. I can’t say that it would have been better or worse. I may have still married, I may have had more children, it my have been a beautiful life, but it wouldn’t be the life I have now. We can only theorize about “what if’s” so much. To dwell on them would make me crazy, so I choose not to do that.

What I do know is that I love my life, and I am incredibly blessed. I do mourn that child, and it still makes me sad, but that is what I believed was the right thing to do for myself at that time in my life, and I am INCREDIBLY thankful that I was legally able to obtain an abortion. Thankful that my parents supported my decision. Thankful that I had access to a safe clinic. Thankful that I had access to medical care from qualified people. Thankful that I was able to decide for myself what I wanted to do with my body. Thankful that I had reproductive rights.

I think EVERY woman should have those same opportunities, same access, and same ability to choose for themselves. Until this happens, we are not truly free as human beings. And Women should be in control of their own bodies!

#womenslives