Mean people suck

So I have not always been the nicest person, and have done mean things in my past, and maybe that is why I feel as though I get back plenty of meanness from people. And maybe I am not alone, maybe everyone deals with mean people on a daily basis, and maybe I am just feeling more sensitive right now?? I am not sure, but dang I seem to be meeting mean people on a regular basis these days. And you know what? Mean People SUCK!

The blessing in that, is I am also meeting loads of nice people too! And I will readily and happily admit that the nice ones far outnumber the mean ones, but gosh those mean ones can just ruin my day!! Have you ever been humming along and having a great day and then someone does something mean, such as cut you off in traffic (I have had so many near misses to getting in accidents),  splash a puddle of water on you as you wait at a street corner (that happened to me one day as I was heading to class at ODU),  or just have a cross word or something snippy to say when you speak to them. (this always amazes me).

I work in a customer service industry and I will say that customers can just really be nasty. I guess maybe they are having a bad day and want to take it out on someone, however, that just really isn’t right!

So I will strive every day to NOT be a mean person. I will say without question that I am ABSOLUTELY sure that I will have mean thoughts, but to say them or act on them will NOT happen.  I am about making 2017 be a positive year for me and my family and those I come in contact with, and NOT a negative year!

At the end of 2017 I want to look back and see that it has been a year of positivity and abundance no matter what we have to deal with that would want to move us in the opposite direction from that.

I choose a life of abundance and not a life of scarcity! I choose a year of POSITIVE reactions and not a year of NEGATIVE reactions.

Can Trump change once he is the President?

Every day I listen to National Public Radio. Sometimes I tune in to Fox News channel on my XM radio. Sometimes I listen to CNN on my radio. I do my best to get news from different perspectives. I am in my car a lot driving and so I have time to sit and listen to the news.

First things first. I was very worried when Trump won. Although I listened to a very close friend who told me not to worry because he was smart enough to “surround himself with smart people even though he is an idiot”, and worried just a little less. Because I value her opinion, and she is older and usually wiser than me I have tried to pay attention to the confirmation hearings so far. So what I have found is that I am even more confused than I was before.

The one thing I can be sure of (based upon actions so far)  is the President-elect Trump will always stay true to the from of what we have always seen and heard from him. From his days of bashing Rosie O’Donnell, to saying he doesn’t want  a “Mexican judge” on his lawsuit, to the man I always believed to be an egomaniac, and quite frankly not very nice. I used to watch “The Apprentice”, and I was always amused by his way of talking to people and thought his ego was a little too big even then. (and when I say I watched it, I mean I watched it back in the beginning, in 2004 when the not so nice Omarosa was on and subsequently fired). Interestingly,  apparently Omarosa has a job in the White House after Trump takes office.

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I just feel that he is who he is. The mean tweets, the outbursts, the inability to listen well, the ego. I am not sure he will be able to take his personality down a notch or two after he takes office. I mean he is no spring chicken…. he is 70 years old………I find it unlikely that a person of that age will change who he is at his core and be able to behave differently than what we have witnessed over the many years he has been in the spotlight….

So I am worried. I just don’t believe he will act one way on January 19 and then a different way on January 21st. The situation with Russia worries me, his way of speaking to people worries me especially when it comes to foreign relations. And I am concerned about the repeal of the ACA without something better to replace it with. I am always hopeful that things will work out okay, but to be honest, I am having a hard time being hopeful.  So many people in this country are scared and don’t know how to feel about what may come.

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So for now, I will just wait and see before I make any judgements and I pray that I am absolutely wrong and once he becomes our 45th President he will change and things will not get worse in this country. I never bought into the “make America Great AGAIN” slogan because I think there is so much about America that is already great and has always been great. I have traveled to other countries, and while ours has its faults, it is definitely one of the best places to live in this world!

Crossing my fingers and ever hopeful that Trump can change his ways when he becomes President!

 

What is God to me?

I love National Public Radio.

Our local station is WHRV, and I listen to it most of the time. I especially love Morning Edition and BBC Newshour. In fact I also love the Cathy Lewis show, and Fresh Air. Okay, I love it all. There have been many times I have sat in my car in the driveway, or in the parking lot at work, and been late just so I can listen to a program. All the while thinking, “just a few more minutes”. I like listening to public radio because I feel smarter when I do.

I feel like I learn something new, or hear a different perspective than I had in my own head. I don’t always agree with everything I hear on the radio, but I always listen.
This morning was one of those mornings where I stayed in my car to hear the last few minutes of a broadcast. It was very interesting, and I heard someone speaking about something I had thought many times but had not put voice to. I heard a story about Eric Weiner and a book he wrote called “Man Seeks God”.

So it made me start thinking, “what is God to me?”

He talked about how he went to the emergency room at a hospital with abdominal pains and a nurse whispered in his ear, “have you found your God yet?” Being a person who works in the medical field I do find it a bit odd that she would say such a thing to a patient, but it was a good thing because it caused Eric to embark upon a quest. A quest to find his God.

In his book he talks about his journey through Islam, and Buddhism, and Christianity, and Judaism. He talks about the things he found and what it meant to him. I will probably buy his book and read it, but the whole topic hit really close to home for me. I mean, I am 47 already.

Have I found my God? I spent some time thinking about it.  I  talked to my clients about it, and my co-workers and my partner Karol. I asked myself what my religion is and I thought about my own spiritual journey.

I was raised Jewish, but we were a family who did not attend Temple. I did not have a Bat Mitzvah and cannot speak or read Hebrew. I do know the prayers and my parents always did the “big” holidays. We had a Passover Seder every year, and ate apples dipped in honey on Rosh Hashanah. We fasted on Yom Kippur and had a dreidel box with presents in it at Hanukkah. It was next to the Christmas tree, but at least my parents taught me about my Jewish heritage.

When I grew up I had a roommate who was Mormon, and I married a man who was a Christian. I liked many of the things I learned in church, but could never quite wrap my head around the “only Christians get to Heaven” part. My parents were good people, but they did not believe in Jesus as their savior. Why did that make them unworthy? Why were only Christians the right ones? I never understood how they could be the only group that is “right”. To me it felt a bit elitist.

After I got divorced and fell in love with my partner I was looking for a church home for us and happened upon the Unitarian Universalist faith. That was a welcoming faith, and I love almost everything about it, but even there, I have some reservations about some aspects of it. I like some Buddhist beliefs, but can’t find my way to all of those either. I have studied some Wiccan beliefs and find those very interesting and comfortable also. When I came home today I asked my family what they believe their religion to be. My mother is an atheist, Karol said she was “raised Catholic”, but now says she “doesn’t know” what she “is”. The oldest son  also said he “doesn’t know”, the middle son said he is an atheist, and the youngest son said he is a “Jewnitarian”, (A Jewish Unitarian Universalist). So even my family is a hodge podge of religious beliefs.

So I guess there is no cookie cutter religion for me. I don’t think God is a man, yet I don’t think God is a woman either. I don’t think of gender when I think of God, I usually think of the universe, or an ethereal being of some kind without a body shape, just spirit. As Eric puts it I seem to have found an “IKEA God.” “Some assembly required,” he says. “[The] idea is that you can cobble together your sort of own personal religion, a sort of mixed tape of God.”

I liked that. It made sense to me, and somehow seemed to put the religious puzzle pieces in my brain into a cohesive unit. So I have decided that it is okay to be eclectic when dealing with religion. That you can take the pieces you like and that make sense to you and add it to the other things that make sense to you and stir it all together to make a wonderful spiritual soup that is palatable and I can live with on a daily basis!