My kids think I am always angry with them……what??????

So yesterday was a pretty exciting day for me.  Some of my classmates in my women’s studies classes are also in a class about Feminism and the Media. In this class, they created Zines, which are like handcrafted, smaller version of a magazine. According to Wikipedia a Zine is a: small circulation self-published work of original or appropriated texts and images usually reproduced via photocopier.  I was really having a tough day, (which shall be saved for another conversation) and I wanted to drown my sorrows in pizza.  So I asked my family if they would go to eat pizza with me, but we had to stop at Old Dominion University first to go to the”Zine Launch Party”. 

Of course Joe Cool (the newly minted 18 year old) was reluctant and didn’t really want to go to the Zine Launch Party, but the lure of pizza was too great, and he said yes.  The Genius (who in really into alternative music, Tumblr, and all things creative) wanted to see the Zines and eat pizza, so he said yes.  Karol just wanted to hang out with me, so she said yes before anyone else answered me back. I texted my request to them (yes I text my kids during school hours), and so I had their responses back in time to make plans. 

That is all a backdrop to the reason we were all in the car together traveling from home to ODU where an interesting conversation took place.

Somehow we started talking about how I texted them my request, and waited for an answer back from them.  Which led to a discussion about me texting them requests for things.  Both of my kids said that they felt like my texts were “angry texts” and that I was always pissed off when I texted them.  Or that my texts were snarky.  This really puzzled me, so of course I asked them why they thought that.

Their answer:……

They said I sound angry when I text because I use punctuation in my texts………?????????????

This really confused me…..

Because what annoys me about texting THEM is:

textiquette #1

Okay, first of all,  I would NEVER punch my kids…..(shhhhhhhhh)

But beyond that, they think I am angry because I use punctuation….????

Actually they said they said because I use periods.  And complete sentences…..

So apparently commas, questions marks and exclamation points are okay, but periods are not…….damn those periods!!!

I was like, “hmm, well, I am NOT mad, but I can understand that texting is difficult to always know the texter’s emotions”

So I suppose I need to use more emojis and smiley faces with them?


I will say I do NOT use text slang.  Never have, never will.  I always spell everything out and use proper words and grammar.  So I guess my questions to you are:

Do you use text slang?  Do you use proper words and punctuation?  and the biggest one:

Do periods at the end of sentences in texting make you think the texter is angry????? Do you think I am angry texting?

Please help me understand their logic that I don’t understand…… you????

This is the plight of the mama in this house…..